Escaping An Abusive Ex Who Often Shook Their Baby When She Cried - A Beautiful Body Project

Escaping An Abusive Partner: Amelie's Story

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(All Photos of Amelie by Saartje van Lommelen)

Meet Beautiful Amelie. Amelie is from Haasrode, Belgium. Amelie is 21 years old and her precious daughter Anisia is 21 months old.

Amelie's Story:

I was 18 years when I met my ex. We were 3 months together when he said he wanted children. First I said no because we really couldn't know each other but after a few talks we decided to stop with my anti-conceptionpill. I got pregnant right away. Everything went well until new year...

We got a letter from court that my ex was busted drug dealing and had to present himself before a judge. Then he had to tell me about his past. He was convicted for trying to kill a woman, drugs dealing, stealing and sex with a minor. If he got 1 more month on his criminal record he really had to go at least 1-15 years to jail. Because I loved him and didn't want that my daughter had to visit him in jail I decided to pay a lawyer. It took months before the judge gave him a working job and no jail. And she did it just because he was going to be a father soon.

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But because of all the stress I ended up in the hospital. There was no amniotic fluid left and there was a chance my little girl would be born early (32weeks pregnancy). But I stayed in bed for 4 weeks before the doctor said I could go home. All this time I had no support of my ex, playing games on his cell or watching television were so much more important.

I gave birth to a beautiful little girl named Anisia on the 25th of June (2012) (39 weeks pregnancy). In the night after she was born I lost too much blood so they had to suck it away and gave my 2 sachets of new blood ...But then the real problems started... She was a real cry baby ( cried the whole night because of an allergy of milk and extremely receding flow). I took care of her 24/24h and when I asked my ex to look after her so I could sleep just a half an hour at night he said no, he had to work the day after and I don't.

We lived at my parents house and they took care of her when I was to tired. My ex never asked them or me how she was, if she got any sleep or not. He left at 6am and came back at 6 pm nut each day I got later and later and when he got home he never went to his daughter, he just sat in the couch and played games on his cell. But when he had to hold her (because I got to go to the bedroom or stuff like that) he started to shake with her when she cried. I said something about but his answer was that it was nothing I was panicking about because he saw it in a movie. I asked him not to do it anymore... But he didn't listen and did it again. We got a huge argument in September 2012 and he said he would cut my throat if I was going to keep acting like I did. That was the moment I sent him away...

My brother and mom then admitted that they saw him shake Anisia several times when I wasn't around. I went to the police but they can't do anything because there is (luckily) no damage done to my baby girls brain and my ex doesn't confess it of course... If they only could see the image of him shaking Anisia burned in my memory, maybe they would have evidence enough. So he left the 9th of September 2012 and we haven't seen him since. Sometimes he sends a mail asking when he could see her but that is only when I ask him to pay his part.

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Today we are perfectly happy with the 2 of us. I don't want a new relationship yet and I definitely don't want anymore children. I want my future husband to love and accept Anisia as his own daughter. I was able to move on with the support of my parents and brother. Without them I would ended up depressed but now they were always there to support me and to help me take care of Anisia.
My dream right now is to buy my own house/apartment and to move out from my parents house so my life with Anisia can start. I want a new relationship when Anisia is older (3-5years). I want my ex to agree to change her last name into my last name. And that he would got convicted for treating Anisia like that but there isn't enough evidence.
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commented 2014-05-17 17:34:03 -0700 · Flag
Amelie is a strong woman. I know. I lived through abuse of my own, for many years, both mental and physical. One of my abusers is the father of my three children. My gifts to this horrible world. Gifts this world do not deserve! To women out there, if you are abused it is because you are strong and they are weak. Move away from the darkness and into the light. Let your power shine onto the world and bring yourself into the light! Do not be afraid, this is what the weak feed on. Simply walk away and take your children with you!

It is better to live under a bridge than to be punching bag for the weak minded. Where there is a will there is a way. FIND IT!
commented 2014-03-18 14:58:16 -0700 · Flag
This story hits so close to home for me. Except the abuse was directed toward me. After he was forced to stop, the abuse was directed toward my oldest son. It never stopped. I escaped after 19.5 years with all five kids. It had been a hard road, a road from hell most of the Time. With many downs then ups. However, I learned one thing from it all. No one will ever touch us again, mentally or physically. Thank you for this story and photos. I wish a photo could show the damage that was done to me. Maybe I could see it more clearly and heal faster.,??

Beautiful daughter and mama, btw!
Leslie bush
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